What do I really want? What do I really love to do?
These are some of the questions that we teenagers in our developing period often ask ourselves. Questions that are pointed on how we develop our character and our interests.
Some of us may be dying for what is popular in the market as of the moment. What is fad. What the popular fashion trend is. Due to that, we tend to wear extravagant clothes and accessories (even on ordinary days).
We tend to base our likes and wants on people who surrounds us, even in our dismay. Though we have different tastes, we tend to share tastes with our peers for having this automatically grants acceptance in the group. We will be more sociable and people will be dying to be your friends. You'll be the talk of the town. Fun in a way huh? The question is, "Are you really happy?"
Being someone who loves to listen to J-pop music, I have quite experienced that too. Whenever I blast my speakers in the classroom to the tune of cutesy voices singing in Japaneses, I get weird looks all over the place and I hear mumbles saying how weird or how nerd am I. Very disheartening isn't it? I chose to stop listening to J-pop for quite a while, hoping to gain the acceptance that I long for. Months passed, there are no more mumblings and weird looks but there is something else. Something that has been empty deep inside of me while avoiding what I really like, what I really LOVE. And guess what? I made myself listen to a song, finished it, and after a while, it became twenty songs or so. A very refreshing feeling. I am now what to my LOVE. I even influenced some of my friends to listen to it to and they now sing with me loud in our classroom with words we can't understand. Haha.
Even though we want to be accepted by our friends, there are some characteristics and interests unique to ourselves that we should keep. We don't need to change them for others, especially if these are what gives us the smiles in our loneliest days. There are some things that we should change for others (good morals and right behavior), these are often taught to us by our good friends, parents and mentors. This area is different from them and therefore we need to keep for ourselves.
A true friend shall accept a friend whoever he or she may be, a friend can contribute to make a friend a better person by citing characteristics that are obviously bad and let him/her be the guiding light to give his/her friend a room for change and development. Don't be afraid to show what you want and what you like, no matter how weird or how nerdy it may be. Remember: there are others whom you share interests with, they are just like you, afraid to be themselves.
Make a stand, fortify your beliefs. Don't afraid to show who you really are. Don't be afraid to stand out. Make a difference.
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